Cuffs and ties refer to handcuffs, wrist and ankle cuffs, rope, and bondage tapes, and all kinds of bondage gear. In BDSM, cuffs and ties have the explicit role of restraining a partner, making them feel helpless of their own will.
It’s a type of power play as well as an exercise in restraint. For an enhanced experience, pairing them with a blindfold can heighten anticipation, while incorporating a gag adds another layer of submission.
Types of Cuffs and Ties
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Wrist and Ankle Cuffs
Wrists and ankle cuffs are the easiest to work with for beginners as you can lock or open the cuffs with a click. You can go for police cuffs like the Calexotics Playful with even a touch of faux fur in them. Or you can try more aesthetically planned luxurious cuffs like the NS Novelties Bondage.
Wrist and ankle cuffs are used together to spread apart your legs and arms for restraint play.
Rope and Bondage Tape
Rope and bondage tapes are used by experienced users, as tying the rope into an artful display requires creativity. Bondage rope like the Calexotics Scandal Red Rope is different because of the softness of the material.
Experience also allows you to quickly untie the rope or bondage tape, saving everyone an embarrassing situation.
Spreader Bars
Spreader bars are specifically meant to keep your legs apart.
They also work as a position aid, especially when standing. Spreader bars also tend to come in sets with cuffs like the Sportsheets Expandable.
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What are cuffs and ties used for in intimacy?
Letting someone cuff or tie you up is a clear show of trust. You’re also engaging in power play, where you’re making a show of submission, ramping up the experience.
Since your hands and legs are restricted, your movements are also limited. This can make any kind of touch or contact feel far more intense, as you aren’t allowed to return it.
How can I use cuffs and ties safely?
Start with making sure the cuffs or ties aren’t too tightly wrapped around your partner. Keep an eye on them and make sure their blood circulation level is fine.
Don’t forget to establish safe words and gestures in advance, especially if you will be using gags along with restraints.
Are there specific materials that are safer or more comfortable for beginners?
Faux fur or leather feels nice and luxurious and can help divert your mind from the pressure of the restraint. Satin and silk for ropes and ties are another option as they’re gentle and don’t leave a mark on the skin.
Can cuffs and ties cause injury?
If the restraint is too tight from cuffs and ties, it can cut off blood circulation and lead to bruising. Always make sure the one restrained is in your line of sight and you can untie them or adjust the fit the moment they ask.
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Choosing the Right Cuffs and Ties
Experience Level: With cuffs and ties, you should make decisions based on your experience level if you are a beginner. It’s smarter to go for wrist and ankle cuffs which you can easily take on and off instead of ropes you will have to wrestle with.
Comfort Level: For bondage ropes or tapes, you can’t just use the regular ones. You have to get them from sex toy shops because the material is far softer and flexible. Then, for wrist and ankle cuffs, you can make sure it feels nicer on your skin with faux fur or padding.
Ease of Use: If you’re a beginner, go for cuffs and ties you don’t have to figure out the entire mechanics of use. Get started and you can expand your skills over time.
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